What I learned from Elmo the Muppet
This week I want to share a surprising lesson from Elmo, the Muppet.
(If you prefer—you can also watch the video version HERE.)
On January 29, 2024, Elmo, the Muppet of Sesame Street fame, asked an innocent question on the social media platform X: “Elmo is just checking in. How’s everybody doing?”
The question quickly generated more than 200,000 views and 15,000 responses.
One response read, “I shouldn’t have rushed wanting to be an adult. I need a break big guy.” Another said, “Honestly Elmo I need a hug.” Music artist and producer T-Pain wrote, “I’m just looking for somebody to talk to and show me some love if you know what I mean.”
My takeaway? Take a lead from Elmo.
There’s an incredible power to simple actions like checking in and asking someone, “How are you doing?”
When you show up, ask with empathy, and genuinely listen, you show that you care. No matter if the person is a close friend, a coworker, or a stranger.
The responses to Elmo’s question were remarkably transparent. That doesn’t always happen.
When you ask, “How are you doing?” you may or may not hear the truth. Especially if the other person is struggling.
Regardless, when you show up, when you demonstrate you care, and when you genuinely listen, something important happens.
You build trust. You tell someone else they matter. You remind the other person that they aren’t alone.
Here’s the paradox in all of this. (A paradox is an apparent contradiction.)
When you give—you get. When you charge someone else’s batteries—it charges your batteries. Giving value to someone else gives you value. Making someone else’s day makes your day.
Give it a try—even if you are struggling yourself. No expectation. No judgment. No agenda.
Keep it simple. Ask. Listen. And show that you care.
One last thought. When you reach out or check in with someone else, you might sense something is off. When that happens, don’t press. Don’t patronize. And please don’t give them a “should” list. Just be present, listen, and care. Because maybe—just maybe—when they really need to talk, they’ll feel comfortable reaching out to you.
How do I know all of this?
Because people who have reached out, shown up, and listened to me—have made an enormous difference in my life. A few have become my closest friends.
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Until next time—remember…
It’s never too late for you to LIVE AGAIN!
THANK YOU for making a difference.
With gratitude,
John Alan
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